psychology

Intelligence

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Based on what I have observed, there are three types of intelligence:

General intelligence: this is the intelligence that most people know. It is related to academic, work, day to day problem solving, etc. It relates to an individual’s IQ.


Financial intelligence: as the name suggests, this relates you how one spends, saves, and makes money.

Emotional intelligence: this relates to people, emotions, and ego.

It is extremely rare to find someone who excels at all three. Commonly, someone may be intelligent at two of the three types of intelligence.


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Thoughts and comments are welcome.

Good-Bad-Good Sandwich

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You have heard the other party’s comments, and you have some positive criticism of your own, but you know if you share it the other party might get offended. You have their best interest in mind, however, people get defensive when you ask them to change their outlook.

One technique to help you get your ideas across and received is to use the “good-bad-good sandwich.”

When the other person has completely presented their argument, and you have actively listened, pause for two seconds, mirror their argument and give them a positive feedback. This is the top of your sandwich. Now they are receptive to your criticism. Present your argument next. You can be direct now. When done, mention something else positive about their argument, or the fact that it is a challenging situation they are in. This is the bottom of your sandwich.

Try it!

Solve My Problems

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Managing people ia hard, especially managing family. So many emotions to navigate, feelings to avoid like land mines. Although it feels good that someone trusts you enough to pour their feelings on you, but it can get stressful for the listener.

Try this: when presented with a problem, especially a complaint abt someone, listen actively to the complainer. Make sure you can empathize with them and try to put yourself in their shoes. Next, say, “I know this is hard, I know how you feel…,” then ask them for a solution. “What do you suppose I should do?” “What makes sense to you?”
This asks the complainer to reflect inwards and think about the problem clearly. Most of the time they will agree there is nothing wrong, or they already knew the solution. People are just people.