“Do what others want, not what you want for them.” -someone smarter than me
It is tempting to think that we know what is best for others, our loved ones, or strangers. That may be true sometimes, but think inwards – how would you feel when someone does something for you on their terms, not how you want things to be done.
When considering a birthday gift, for example, ask the person what they really want, and don’t suppose that they will like what you give them.